When confidence disappears, what to do?

Last night I went to a black tie dinner and while we were having drinks I started talking to this young woman.  She asked me what I do and I told her that I prepare brides for their big day and she started laughing and said 'I wish I knew someone like you before I got married'.  She was so confident and chatted to me as if we had known each other for years although we just met.  I asked her what she possible could have needed advice on as she seemed so confident.  She told me that she got married in Kenya with 20 guests, predominantly her family and everything was going well.  She came into the room where the wedding was taking place, turned the corner, saw the guests and froze.  She wanted to run and cry. She had this overwhelming feeling of fear that shocked her...totally unexpected.  She told me that it was just the culmination of everything.  The white dress, the flowers, the shoes...she had never worn things like that before.   She had worn long dresses and heels but there was something about being dressed in white with the eyes of your friends and family watching your every move.

It's amazing how situations that we least expect can jump up and frighten us when we don't expect it.  A great technique to use in a situation like that is to identify where the feeling is...in your stomach, in your chest, in your throat or somewhere else.  Spin that feeling in the direction that it wants to go.  Energy has movement and a feeling is energy.  Keep spinning it in that direction until you can't stand it anymore and then stop it, reverse it in the opposite direction and let it spin in that direction, faster and faster.  When something goes in the opposite direction, it doesn't remain the same so the negative feeling becomes a positive feeling.  Go on, do it now.  Think of something that stresses you out and do this technique.  It works every time.

The beauty of this technique is that you can do it anytime, anywhere and no one will know that you are doing it and the more you practice it, the easier it will become and before you know it you will do it naturally without thinking about it!