Perfection is a myth...

Nothing is perfect, is it?  Have you seen perfection?  I talk to a lot of brides and the one thing I notice most is their desire to have the perfect wedding.  Forget it.  It's not possible.  There is no such thing as a perfect wedding and the sooner you give up that idea, the sooner your stress level will reduce.

I heard a great phrase the other day...'It's not what life throws at you, it's how you catch it'.  I like that and the more I think about it, the more relaxed I feel about what life is going to throw at me.  You see, not everything goes to plan as we would like it to and that's OK.  Let go of this idea of the perfect wedding because it has never happened before and I doubt that you will be the first!  Besides, what would you have to talk about afterwards?  Some of the best stories from a wedding are about the things that didn't go to plan and they are usually very funny and we can dine out on them for years.

Instead of focusing on the idea of a perfect wedding, make a picture of what you will look like on the day, how happy you will feel and see the faces of your friends and family enjoying your wedding day.  Make a very clear picture of that and make it big and colourful and hear the voices and laughter.  If it helps to close your eyes, do this.  Make the picture even bigger like you are sitting in a cinema and you are watching it on a big screen.  Play the film out from beginning to end and make sure it has the emotion in it that you want to achieve.  It's not about the perfect flower arrangements, or the most beautiful dress or even the perfect weather, it's about enjoying yourself and enjoying the event that you have spent months planning.  If you focus on that, you will have a wonderful day and if anything doesn't go to plan, you will roll with it and laugh it off.

A wedding is about great memories and in order to have great memories it is best to be in a good state of mind.  Stay in the moment on the day and really notice the things around you...you've spent a lot of time and money on them so enjoy! Get out of your head and shut down the internal dialogue.  Instead, look at everything around you, take deep breaths and inhale the aroma of the flowers, feel the body heat of your friends and family, look in your husband's eyes and smile.  They will all be looking to you to see if you are relaxed and enjoying yourself and if you are, then they will as well.

Perfection is boring...