I'm sure that there is some validity to this and we know that musicians get better with practice, for example, but not all of us have the time to devote to practicing for 10,000 hours to achieve this. There is another way. When I'm working with brides to be I talk about practicing in the shoes, the dress, the veil and anything else they feel insecure about wearing or doing. They love this advice because it gives them a chance to practice before the Wedding Day and enables them to feel more confident. Why not practice the wedding? Competence breeds confidence!
So here is my tip...once you have practised in the clothes, shoes and the rest, commit that to memory like a short film. See yourself in your wedding dress with all the accessories and hair and makeup, walking down the aisle, enjoying the ceremony and remembering everything about it. When you are in a situation where you can do a bit of daydreaming, close your eyes and run the film. Run it again and again and again until you feel so comfortable with it that it's as if you have done it already.
This technique is used by martial arts' competitors, golfers, and many other athletes in the world of sport. For example, in their mind a golfer will make the hole bigger and closer so that there is a shorter distance between the tee and the hole. Nothing has changed on the outside but their mind is more focused on the shorter distance between the two that they actually get closer to the hole than they would have if that didn't do this. A martial art competitor will work out their plan of attack and run it over and over again in their mind until they feel as if they have won the competition already. So you see, they are practicing even when they aren't in a position to really practice.Go on...try it! What have you got to lose?
